Dear i,
Basically, i discern this, that, we desire, to be happy. This is fundamental and certain fact. We seek happiness, from something else only because, we are currently unhappy the way we are, or, there is some sense of incompleteness, which we try to fill it by various means - wealth, men/woman, children and so on. And, it is also seen, very evidently, that, these are not making us complete, simply because they are quickly emptied, or we need to keep re fueling, again and again, by seeking more from the desired object.
This is plainly because, we have not yet (if i am allowed to use the word) "Tasted" the bliss of Self. Desires are like dreams really, we cannot destroy them or control them, for any attempt to do so, only means to aspiring to control the "Seen" which is not real - as we have seen already, how only the Seer alone is Real.
In order to be fully free of desires, what i discern is that, here again, we need to experience the Seer, that we are, the 'i' that we are. There is a requirement, yet again, to intellectually discern the bliss of Self, so as to discern that the bliss of Self is far superior to the other desires, only then, as one Self is dear to one Self, the Self reposes as Self as bliss.
What is the way to experience the bliss of Self? the only possible way is to discern, is to See, the Seer, and see for ourselves. At this very moment, this does seem like "is it really possible??" but this is the only way, i discern. One has to constantly See the Self by reposing as Self and then contemplate comparing this experience of reposing as Self with that of other experiences derived from objects. The more we do this sincerely, i feel, surely discern, will end the ajnana that desries of objects are superior to the bliss of Self.
Renouncing is not an Act, but it in involuntary, on the dawn of absolute Jnana. Renouncing desires is really the result of dawn of True Jnana. One cannot renounce, for renouncing is genuinely not possible, because, truly there is nothing to renounce, for, how can a dream be renounced? only by waking, and there is no other way!
Prostrations to Bhagavan